The Second Chapter: Self Led

Private 1:1 coaching for women ready to rebuild after marriage and lead their life on their terms.

You’ve already left the relationship (or you want to).

What you haven’t fully done yet is anchor into yourself.

You’re functioning. You’re handling your life.

From the outside, things look steady.

Inside, it’s less certain.

You question your decisions.

You notice the same emotional patterns showing up.

You feel the pull towards familiar fears, thoughts and patterns, even when you know it’s not right.

You thought leaving would create clarity.

Instead, it’s shown you where you’re still not healed or fully self-led.

This is where the real shift happens.

You Don't Need More Insight...

You may already understand your patterns.

Or you may still be in the middle of it.
Processing the loss, the grief, the shock of how your life has changed.

Both are valid.

You might know exactly why the relationship ended.
Or you might still be trying to make sense of it.

But either way, it shows up in real life.

You hesitate.
You question your decisions.
You override your instincts.
You stay longer than you should, or pull away too quickly.

For some, it looks like confusion and emotional overwhelm.
For others, it looks like repeating patterns you thought you’d already moved through.

This isn’t just about understanding what happened.

It’s about who you are becoming now.

You don’t need to have it all figured out before you begin.

You need support to become the woman who can hold herself, trust herself, and lead herself differently now she's no longer married, reliant on herself to show up and move through the world successfully - practically yes, but also emotionally.

What this work actually is:

This is not just about talking through your past.

It’s about changing how you move in your present.

How you make decisions.
How you hold your standards.
How you respond under pressure.
How you choose what enters your life next.

We stabilise your emotional world.
We interrupt patterns as they happen.
We build self-trust through action, not theory and talk therapy.

You don’t do this alone.

You’re supported while it’s happening.

This is for you if:

You know your marriage is complete and you’re ready to move forward properly
You’re functioning well, but you don’t feel emotionally at peace, settled or self-trusting yet
You keep noticing the same relationship patterns still leading you, even though you know better
Dating has shown you that your healing hasn’t fully landed
You’re ready to take responsibility for how your life moves next

If you want something surface level, this is not it.

Carla’s 1:1 mentoring changed the trajectory of my life. Struggling to leave a toxic relationship post my marriage ending and dealing with negative beliefs about myself, I was in a perpetual cycle of confusion, fear, and self- abandonment.

Carla helped support and guide me back to trusting my intuition and self-love and to leave a karmic relationship. Carla also gave me the vision, strategies and confidence to kick start my new business that was waiting in the wings.

Meeting Carla, she instantly possesses a real genuine compassion for the women she coaches, she listens intently and her approach to our sessions made reassured by her relatable, open, and honest advice.

Other therapists I’ve seen, never gave me the outcomes and real change that I achieved from working with Carla, I am now living and creating the present and future I want.

I would recommend Carla to anyone struggling in relationships or self love.

Kellie

I interviewed Julie on my podcast here titled: 'How One Woman Overcame The Cliche'd End To Her Marriage & Became An Entirely Different Woman In The Process'

I came to Carla embarrassed and humiliated about the clichéd end of my 20-year marriage.

Carla'a AfterGlow container and coaching helped me immensely. I was no longer the ‘victim’ and for the first time in my life I found myself excited to be in the driver’s seat.

Yes, I was grieving the loss of the family life I had planned in my head, the future that will never be … but Carla helped open my eyes to a whole NEW world of possibilities.

An empowering program, that helped me regain my confidence, direction, and drive. That has ultimately changed my life.

Julie

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Who Is Carla Da Costa

Carla Da Costa is a published author on divorce and love, a certified divorce coach and transformational life coach. She has been working in the divorce space and works with men and women who are separating, divorced or who have been out of their marriages since 2017. Carla went through her own divorce in 2016.

Carla has a deep understanding of the masculine and feminine healing and awakening journey that occurs during a marriage ending and moving on from it's ending process.

Carla's work has a deep focus on supporting men into their conscious, masculine energy and women into their empowered, feminine energy - sometimes for the first real time in their lives. Her desire is to heal mistrust and misunderstanding between men and women and to see both sexes in their empowerment and strengths and in loving unions with another.

She has a deep passion in the psychological, metaphysical and spiritual worlds while also having a deep grasp on the practicalities and legalities of a marriage ending and the navigation of exes, children and associated situations of money and businesses.

Carla's coaching is both a combination of executive style coaching, mentorship and intuitively lead guidance. She has a profound ability to recognise pattern recognition, to be able to read you and your situation quickly and powerfully to bring you clarity, healing and resolvement.

On a personal level, Carla went through her own marriage ending and divorce in 2015 and 2016 and has coached 1000's of individuals through their own since. She could not do this work today if she had not moved through this experience and come fully out the other side herself.

What you receive:

4 private 75-minute sessions online
Daily support between sessions for real-time guidance via a private app
Hypnotherapy library to support deeper change
Structured pre-work so we start with clarity
Membership to my AfterGlow program with over 70+ hours of recorded coaching and healing content for continued support and personal growth.

This is close, consistent, and responsive.

You are not left to figure it out alone between sessions.

What makes this different:

You are supported while it’s happening.
Not after.
You don’t leave a session and try to apply it on your own.
You have guidance in the moments where you would normally fall back into old patterns.
That’s where change actually happens.

The truth about dating after marriage

Ending your marriage didn’t reset your patterns.

If nothing changes internally, you will keep choosing the same dynamics in different people.

You might recognise it faster now.
You might leave sooner.

But the pull will still be there.

This is where most women stay stuck.

They understand the pattern.
But they don’t change how they move.

This work changes that.

What changes when you become self-led

You become steady.

You trust your decisions without spiralling.
You stop overriding your instincts.
You hold boundaries without guilt.

Your feelings of guilt, anger, sadness, shame fade for the past.
You choose differently, and it shows in who and what you attract.

Your life starts to reflect who you are now.

Not who you had to be before.

Be inspired by some of my past client's stories and experiences with me here.

What Makes This Different

This is not a series of sessions.

This is a contained space where:

Decisions are supported as they’re made
Patterns are interrupted rather than analysed
Momentum is maintained instead of lost between calls

You are not left to “figure it out” alone.

If you want steady support without daily intensity, my AfterGlow container is a better fit. You can find it here.

Investment

Private 1:1 Coaching Investment

$3,495 AUD pay in full
$1,200 x 3 monthly payments
$600 x 6 monthly payments

This reflects the level of support, proximity, and depth of work.

You’re not paying for sessions.

You’re investing in how your life moves next.

If you’re unsure whether this level of support is right for you, AfterGlow is always the safest place to begin. You can find it here.

Next Steps

You already know your old way of doing things doesn’t work anymore.

The question isn’t whether you’re capable of change.

It’s whether you’re ready to stop repeating the past and lead what comes next.

Private 1:1 coaching is offered in limited spaces.

If you feel drawn to this level of support, the first step is a conversation to explore whether this container is the right fit for you.

You can enquire about this style of coaching by emailing me below.

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