1:1 Private Coaching For Men
A highly tailored three month coaching container for the masculine who is either moving through the awakening and grief of a marriage coming to it's an end. Or for the masculine who is walking the healing path after a marriage has ended - he is redefining himself, relearning what love is and leaving the past hurts behind.
This container is designed to support a man into his power, his leadership and into his true, healthy masculine self.
This is 1:1 coaching for men who want stability, clarity, and self-leadership after separation.
Not talk for the sake of it. Real work that creates change.
This 3 month coaching program is for the masculine who is:
- Feeling grief, guilt, shame and perhaps even anger
- Mistrustful of the feminine or navigating a complex, emotional or manipulative ex-wife
- Desires to feel freedom and has a belief that to be in a relationship is a 'loss' of their freedom
- Desiring to be in their masculine and in balance (leadership, drive, strength, purpose) and to break up with feeling emasculated (lost, purposeless, manipulated and put down by the feminine, people pleasing, withholding their truth)
- Wanting to be in relationship with a feminine woman who is empowered, soft and nurturing over attracting and pursuing one of two types of women. The first - women who are 'needy', emotionally reactive, wounded, who need saving financially and otherwise. Or second the woman who likes to be in control and wear the pants- it's her way or the highway and over time, nothing you do is good enough or right.
This container is suitable for you if you are still married, if you have separated recently or if you have been separated for a period of time but are still carrying the wounding, disappointment and hurt on the inside.
Real Work I Heal With My Clients
Emotional Suppression and Delayed Grief
You have kept moving. Working. Handling life.
What you have not had space to do is process what actually happened.
Pushing emotions down does not make them disappear. It turns them into tension, anger, numbness, and distance from yourself and others. Many men stay functional while feeling disconnected inside.
Coaching gives you a place to clear the emotional weight without losing your edge. You do not need to fall apart. You need structure, truth, and a way forward that restores self-respect and internal stability.
Ongoing Conflict and Power Struggles With Your Ex
You want calm and cooperation. Instead, every interaction feels loaded.
Old dynamics keep pulling you back into reaction, defence, or silence. This drains energy and creates frustration, especially when children or finances are involved.
This work is about emotional leadership. Learning how to respond rather than react. Holding your ground without escalating conflict. Creating clear boundaries that protect your peace and your future. Dealing with your own avoidance about past hurt and issues that you haven't addressed adequately with your ex that underly this conflict.
Identity Loss and Uncertainty About Who You Are Now
Separation strips away roles you lived inside for years.
Without the structure of marriage or family life, many men realise they were defined by responsibility rather than self-connection. The result can be restlessness, doubt, or a quiet sense of emptiness.
Coaching supports you to rebuild identity from the inside out. Not based on proving or pleasing, but on clarity, values, and direction you trust. This is about becoming grounded in who you are now, not who you used to be.
Fear of Repeating The Same Relationship Patterns
You may want connection again, but part of you is cautious.
You do not want to end up in the same dynamic, choosing the same type of partner, or losing yourself in another relationship. Avoidance or rushed decisions both come from the same place: lack of insight.
This work helps you understand your emotional patterns, triggers, and blind spots so you can choose differently next time. With awareness comes confidence. With clarity comes better decisions.
Who Is Carla Da Costa
Carla Da Costa is a published author and a divorce transformation coach. She has been working in the divorce space since 2016 and has recently opened her coaching books to work with men due to demand and to support men's mental health and evolvement through love.
Carla has a deep understanding of the masculine and feminine healing and awakening journey that occurs during a marriage ending and moving on from it's ending process.
Carla's work has a deep focus on supporting men into their conscious, masculine energy and women into their empowered, feminine energy - sometimes for the first real time in their lives. Her desire is to heal mistrust and misunderstanding between men and women and to see both sexes in their power and strengths and in loving unions with another.
She has a deep passion in the psychological, metaphysical and spiritual worlds while also having a deep grasp on the practicalities and legalities of a marriage ending and the navigation of exes, children and associated situations of money and businesses.
Carla's coaching is both a combination of executive style coaching, mentorship and intuitively lead guidance. She has a profound ability to be able to read you and your situation quickly and powerfully to bring you clarity, healing and resolvement.
Results To Expect When Working With Me
Greater passion, purpose and drive in your personal and professional worlds.
Improved health, vitality and well-being.
Understanding of what is true masculine and femininity as an individual and within relationship.
Deeper emotional and sexual connection with your partner.
No longer attracting or pursuing woundedness and co-dependency in women or enabling such dynamics in relationships.
Clarity and confidence around your decisions and path forward.
Healing and knowledge around the feminine.
Freedom. No longer feeling held back.
What's Included & Pricing
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In depth pre-consultation questionnaire
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4 x 1 hr consultations with Carla via Zoom or if you prefer over the phone
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Personalised support between sessions for the 3 month period via my private client app to keep you in forward, positive momentum
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A hypnotherapy library focused on your masculinity, healing and growth.
Sessions are spaced three weeks apart over our three month container together.
Pricing
Upfront Payment of $2,750
Three Monthly Payments of $960
Six Monthly Payments of $485
Our time together will be a life-changing, pivot point in your personal journey.
Uplevelling not just you but your love relationship and professional results for yourself.
It is imperative that you come to this container tired of living with the consequences of playing small and living in your old story and instead now desire real results and success in your life.