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Let me first say thank you to these beautiful women....
because not everyone who works with me as a 1:1 client or through my Newly Divorced online program is necessarily comfortable to share their story publicly. So thank you to these women who courageously have allowed me to do so, in the hope that it inspires another woman to say "yes" to themselves and to everything they deserve.
I came to Carla embarrassed and humiliated about the clichéd end of my 20-year marriage.
Newly Divorced helped me immensely. I was no longer the ‘victim’ and for the first time in my life I found myself excited to be in the driver’s seat.
Yes, I was grieving the loss of the family life I had planned in my head, the future that will never be … but Carla helped open my eyes to a whole NEW world of possibilities.
An empowering program, that helped me regain my confidence, direction, and drive.
Carla Carla Carla.
Where do I start?
Well, lets go from the person that I was a couple of years ago. I was in a relationship that was going nowhere.
I left (again) and did my usual thing and got into another one STAT. I couldn't work out why this pattern of behaviour wasn't working for me and I found myself at a crossroads. Either I keep doing the same thing or challenge myself to do something else.
Along came Newly Divorced. What a mind blowing process it was. It was like looking at myself through a mirror glass for the first time in my life and I didn't like what I saw.
Carla is one of the most inspired people that I've had the pleasure of working with. She knows her shit. She will challenge you. She will guide you to a better version of yourself, one that personally I didn't know existed.
The group program was amazing. Working with Carla 1:1 was next level.
A year ago I couldn’t have imagined being where I am today.
I was in a loveless marriage and severely depressed. With so many unresolved issues from childhood affecting my relationships, I didn’t know where to turn.
Fast forward to today and I am in a loving relationship where I am valued, respected and treated like a queen, but more importantly, I feel strong and happy in myself for the first time in my life!
I reached out because I was struggling to let go of an unhealthy attachment I had to a man I had met. I had been separated for a few years and was repeating the same patterns in attracting the same man over an over.
I reached out to Carla to enquire about the Newly Divorced program. I was hesitant at first to make the investment in myself as I thought I should be able to just ‘stop’ fixating and to change my patterns myself. How wrong was I!
I was very nervous having my one on one with Carla but after allowing myself to be fully open with her she was able to hold a mirror up. What I had been attracting is what I was sending out - Wow mind blown!
The program has given me tools and helped me to shift my energy, to love my self and my life and to attract more of what fills my cup. It’s a journey but one definately worth taking. Thank you Carla!
How to thank a woman who has completely transformed your life?
I have been working with Carla for 5 months (1:1 and the online program) to try and break toxic habits and living a life of playing small and safe.
All I can say is in this short time with Carla I have learnt and grown more then I have in my whole adult life.
Carla challenged my thought process and self talk and helped me transform my life, not only have I changed my career path but have changed my energy so much so that people around me have commented on it, and wanted to know why I seemed so different.
I have gone from an over giver with no boundaries, to someone who is not afraid to ask for what I want/need and have the ability to set boundaries in my life, I now live to make me happy, not everyone else!
I have really enjoyed every step of this journey, Carla’s coaching style is calming, positive and intuitive, investing in myself by joining this community was one of the most rewarding decisions I have ever made.
(Client is married)
Wow. So glad I enrolled in this program. I have learnt so much about myself, my relationships, my mindset and what makes me happy.
When I joined my relationship with hubby was in a rut. I felt flat, exhausted, unhappy and empty. I was always the do’er and the organiser and I was existing, not living my best life.
I’ve had a huge shift in myself and in my relationship, we’re having fun again. I have an inner calmness and strength that I didn’t have before. I’ve become more aware of setting my personal boundaries and keeping them.
Thank you beautiful Carla for taking me on this journey. I’ve loved it and know that I’m now a better version of myself. My life’s good and great things are happening for me.
I hope to meet you in person one day!
Do you see yourself in these ladies yet?
I have just completed Newly Divorced and working with Carla 1:1. Can I just say thank you, truly thank you. I am a different person than I was before this.
I sit back now and reflect on who I am now. I have let go of so much of my past, cut huge emotional ties, leant into who I am and who I want to be, embraced my shadow side, am very self aware and able to deconstruct whats underneath the emotions, and am more confident in who I am and embracing the feminine Goddess in me.
I finally feel ready to start moving on and meet somebody, which is not a space I thought I would be in for a while. But my focus is on my life and creating my life I love, not finding someone else to make my life great. At the time, I didnt realise the growth in myself, but I see it now in reflection.
Your work is incredible and had helped me in more ways than I can say. Thank you for being you, for all you have been through and all that you share and teach us. I am so so grateful to be part of your life and all the wonderful things you bring to this world.
Much love, xxxxx"
(Client is married)
I would like to thank Carla for an awesome Newly Divorced Programme. I have learnt so much about myself whilst exploring my journey with myself and my husband.
i have found my voice and have greater clarity in the direction of marriage - nurturing my feminine & masculine energies which has helped our relationship so much.
The programme itself had some amazing elements which I feel has enriched my life so much more. Thanks again Carla ❤️
Carla came into my life at just the right time. A friend recommended I should follow her Instagram and I immediately resonated with so many of Carla’s posts.
I explored working with her on a 1:1 basis as well as her Newly Divorced program and boy oh boy am I glad I did! I ended up doing both.
After coming out of a 20+ year marriage, I was stuck and had lost my spark.
Carla helped me find my mojo again and I haven’t felt this energised for life and my future, in a long time.
I am absolutely loving the course, I cannot tell you how this has changed my life. I never thought that I would come out of the situation that I was in.
Last June I came out of a very challenging relationship with a long term partner who was an alcoholic. I rekindled a relationship with an ex who although was not physically or emotionally abusive he was not very nice. This was devastating.
I am 43 and I have never ever been single and this is the first time. Since I have participated in this course for the first time in my life I feel comfortable own space and I am genuinely okay and at peace. I am taking time to nourish and care for myself. I pray that one day I will meet someone although I am still a little terrified.
I cannot thank you enough, honestly you are an earth angel xx
Working with Carla was the best move I made! Joining the Newly Divorced program helped me understand what wasn't working for me and what was holding me back from being the best version of myself.
I gained the confidence, clarity and energy to move through the next stage of my life and to trust my intuition more.
Carla was also available to help me 1:1 recently when I was stuck on a situation I couldn't move past. She helped me gain clarity and shift my focus so that I could move forward.
I am so grateful for Carla's support and guidance and can highly recommend working with her.
Thanks again Carla x
After my separation I felt lost in every sense of the word, didn't know where to start or where to next.
I stumbled across Carla's book 'Seconds Please" and read it in a day. For the first time in a long time I felt like someone understood. I then connected with Carla and started her Newly Divorced program.
This allowed me to challenge myself and grow towards being a strong, confident and capable woman. Carla's support and knowledge in this area of separation and divorce is second to none.
Today I feel happy, strong and confident in the person I am, and in what I need and want going forward.
I cannot recommend Carla's services more highly, she has changed the course of my life.
Working with Carla has been one of the most pivotal self care actions I have taken this year.
I was feeling stuck in multiple areas of my life until Carla kindly created the space, and provided the tools I needed to let go of the things that were causing me drag.
I have continued using these tools to more easily flow into the fullness of each present moment.
Investing in me, it turns out, is priceless.
Carla has been incredible to work with as I navigate the uncertain waters during the divorce process. She opened my mind to the limited beliefs I held, encouraged me to think outside the box & pushed me towards my authentic self.
The sessions were so helpful & practical. She understood my worries/concerns & helped to lower the anxiety surrounding certain obstacles.
I’m a few months away from (hopefully!) completing my divorce & I feel very very excited for what’s to come. Thank you so much for helping me recognise my value as a human, for supporting my decisions & giving me free will in my choices.
I met you at the exact moment I needed you, Carla!
You will not regret working with Carla
I have been struggling in a loveless marriage for many many years. I have 3 adult children still living at home and took 10 years out of the workforce to raise my family. My husband and I had ’separated’ a couple of years ago, still going through the legal process, but he is still living at the family home and refusing to move out. I was stuck with this fear of taking the next step (family breaking apart, not hurting the children, financially etc.)
I took the leap and recently joined the ‘Newly Divorced’ program which included a 1:1 session. It took only one call for Carla to understand my journey, what I need to focus on and left me feeling positive about the future. So many moments of guidance, clarity and reassurance.
I am so thankful for all the work that she does and I’m looking forward to continuing working with her and to create a fulfilling life for myself.’
Please know that working with me is a very different process to working with a psychologist or counsellor.
This is a results driven and heart based process. My clients come to me seeking forward movement and an outcome. We always touch on the emotional challenges and struggles together in our session absolutely, but our focus is always on how we can move you through them, over them and resolve them. I want you to not need me again after our time together because you are feeling empowered, strong and confident in yourself, more than you ever have before.
Carla Da Costa is the author of 'Seconds Please' and a divorce coach. She works with women who are separating or divorced through her private coaching practice, her online program Elevate You and her books.
Through her work Carla supports and inspires women to make this next season of their life, the best season of their life. Carla has become a modern voice on divorce for women asking is divorce really a failure or could this actually be the best thing that ever happened to you?
Carla’s intention is to support and empower men and women to become a product of their greatest self-expression. If she can change her life and how she views her life and potential than you can too. In this area she is a powerhouse.
Carla is currently living in Perth, Western Australia with her two daughters and their dog Oliver. She spends most of her time at the beach, is forever removing sand from her car, swimming endless laps in the pool, catching up with friends, doing coffee and lunch with loved ones and living on Vietnamese and Japanese food (with the occasional Portuguese custard tart thrown in).
And yes, Carla went through her own divorce in 2016/17 (she couldn't do this work, like she does, if she hadn't).
Her life motto is: 'I blow by anything that slows me down' ~ Guru Jagat.