The integration program for women who've survived the ending and are ready to stop surviving and start becoming.
Your marriage ended.
Maybe it was last year. Maybe it was five years ago. Maybe you're newly separated and still processing the shock that this is actually happening. Maybe it feels like a lifetime since you signed those papers.
Maybe you left. Maybe you were left. Maybe you both knew it was coming for years, or maybe it blindsided you on a Tuesday morning when you thought you were safe.
Maybe you chose truth over peace and walked away from the life that looked good on paper but was slowly killing your soul. Or maybe someone else made that choice for you, and you're still processing the betrayal, the abandonment, the shattering of everything you thought was solid.
Maybe you're newly separated and drowning in grief you weren't prepared for, overwhelm that feels endless, and the crushing disappointment that this is actually your story now. Maybe you're dealing with a manipulative, controlling ex who's making this process a living hell, who's using the kids or the finances or the legal system to keep hurting you even though it's over.
Either way, you're here now. Maybe in the immediate aftermath, maybe years into rebuilding, but somewhere on this journey of becoming who you are without them.
And here's what you've discovered (or are discovering) that no one prepared you for:
The work isn't done just because the marriage is over.
Whether you're newly separated or years out, you thought you'd healed. You thought you'd moved on. And then...
If you're newly separated: Maybe it's the crushing reality of single parenting. Maybe it's the financial stress. Maybe it's your ex's continued manipulation and control, making you question your own reality. Maybe it's the grief that comes in waves when you least expect it, or the overwhelming sense that you'll never be okay again.
If you've been out longer: Maybe it was the situationship that never quite formed into something real. Maybe it was the emotionally unavailable man who triggered every abandonment wound you thought you'd processed. Maybe it was the pattern of attracting the same energy in different packaging, over and over again.
Maybe it was the moment you realized you were still choosing people who couldn't fully see you, still settling for crumbs, still contorting yourself to fit into spaces that weren't built for your expansion.
And suddenly you understood: the divorce was just the beginning. The real work - the deep, soul-level integration of who you're becoming - is happening now.
You're not broken, gorgeous.
Whether you're in the fresh hell of separation or the longer journey of rebuilding, you're in the most important phase of this transformation.
The part where you stop reacting to your past and start creating from your truth.
This is where AfterGlow begins.
Carla Da Costa is Australia's leading Divorce Coach, coaching over 2,000 women through this season of their life since 2021. She is also a best selling author on the topic of love and divorce.
Join her inside her life changing AfterGlow Container for women post-separation today.
I first reached out to Carla not realising how much she would change my life. Every time we spoke, she just knew. She knew what was going on beneath the surface, even before I could articulate it. And with that knowing, she would give me exactly what I needed whether it was a breakthrough in personal growth, relationships, or stepping into my power as a businesswoman.
Through her coaching and program, I’ve learned to trust my intuition, break old patterns, and live in deep alignment with my values. She’s shown me that I don’t have to follow the crowd or the chaos. I can do it my way with clarity, soul, and integrity.
Working with Carla hasn’t just made me better in business; it’s made me a better human. There’s nobody like her, and I’m endlessly grateful to have her in my corner.
Suz
Here's What I Know About You
If you're newly separated: You're drowning. Some days you can barely breathe through the grief, the anger, the practical overwhelm of rebuilding an entire life. Maybe your ex is still controlling the narrative, still manipulating situations, still making you question your own sanity. You're wondering if you'll ever feel normal again, if you made the right choice, if you'll ever be able to trust yourself or anyone else.
If you've been out longer: You've done the practical work. The lawyers, the paperwork, the logistics of building a life on your own. You've survived the worst of it - maybe years ago now. You've done therapy. You've read the books. You've processed the anger, the grief, the relief. You understand what happened and why. You've even forgiven (mostly).
But whether you're fresh in this or years deep, you keep bumping up against patterns that surprise you. Walls you didn't know you'd built. Ways of being that served you during the marriage or the immediate aftermath, but are now limiting your expansion.
You thought healing was linear. You thought once you were "over" your divorce, you'd naturally attract healthy love, know your worth, trust your judgment completely.
Instead, you've discovered that healing is cyclical.
That growth happens in layers.
That the woman who had the courage to end her marriage (or survive being left) is still evolving into the woman who knows how to heal and build extraordinary love.
You're ready for someone who understands that this isn't about being "behind" or "damaged."
This is about doing the integration work that most people skip.
The deep, transformational work that creates lasting change instead of temporary fixes.
What You Get In The Afterglow Coaching Container
🔥 70+ hours of coaching content specific to the healing journey post a marriage ending to transform your patterns. From people pleasing, self-abandonment, rebuilding your identity, shifting out of a lack and into an abundant, confident mindset, understanding the masculine/feminine energies, how to shift out of being in a masculine energy, healing from rejection/abandonment/trauma/emotional abuse and so much more.
🔥 Weekly live group calls - 60 minutes of deep dives, hot seat coaching, community connection. Every week, forever. If you're newly separated, these calls become your lifeline. If you've been out longer, they're your growth edge.
🔥 Lifetime access to a private community - For ongoing support, celebrations, and real talk with women who get it. This isn't a temporary program - it's a lifetime practice. Women at every stage supporting each other.
🔥 Deep dives into specific aspects of post-divorce integration: managing manipulative exes, attachment styles, dating dynamics, co-parenting boundaries, family relationships, financial independence.
🔥 Somatic healing, nervous system regulation, navigating an ex during a separation guidance, financial mindset, conscious dating, guidance around family dynamics. The whole spectrum of support for every phase of this journey.
🔥 Private community for questions, celebrations, and real-time support from both me and your cohort sisters.
🔥 Resource library - Tools, meditations, exercises, and frameworks that grow with the community's needs. Specific resources for newly separated women and those dealing with high-conflict exes.
Hi, I’m Carla! Your Life After Divorce Transition Coach for women who are moving on from their marriage ending and recreating their self-identity after putting everyone else's needs above their own.
I've walked this path. I've guided thousands through it. I wrote the literal book on it.
My own marriage ended in 2016/2017 after being with the same person since I was 21. I thought I lost myself in that marriage, but the truth was more complex: I never really knew who I was before I got married.
And then came the years after. The relationships that reflected back to me all the ways I still didn't trust myself. The patterns I thought I'd healed that showed up in new packaging. The moments of thinking "I should be further along by now."
What I've learned through my own journey and through guiding thousands of women is this: the path isn't linear. You don't heal once and stay healed. You don't figure yourself out and then coast. Growth happens in spirals - you think you've mastered something, and then life presents you with a deeper layer to explore.
And that's not failure. That's evolution. That's the ongoing journey of becoming fully yourself.
We only get to bounce back. Stronger. Clearer. More ourselves than we've ever been.
Whether your marriage ended last week or five years ago, whether you left or were left, whether you're dealing with a manipulative ex or an amicable co-parenting situation, whether you've had disappointing relationships since or you've been intentionally single - the path forward is the same.
It requires courage to break the code you were raised with. It requires choosing truth over peace, over and over again.
Working with Carla through my various emotions, chapters has been life changing. The program has assisted me greatly and my 1:1 coaching has been invaluable. Carla’s authentic and genuine style (and helped by a wicked sense of humour) has helped me navigate my journey with confidence and clarity.
Carla’s refreshing take on separations where it’s about focusing on our growth and not sitting in the negative energy is refreshing and empowering.
With Carla’s help I am feeling confident and positive about my future as a 42 year old divorcee. Having Carla in your corner is truly life changing.
Louise
I have truly transformed my life and the person I am thanks to Carla. She was the guiding light I needed.
I feel so grateful for Carla coming into my life as I know with certainty I would not be in this place in my life had we not connected.
Had someone told me 5 years ago where I would be today in my business and personal life post my marriage ending I would never have believed them!! I honestly am in the best place of my life and I attribute so much of that to Carla, her coaching and her program.
Samantha
AfterGlow isn't about healing from your divorce. It's about integrating the woman who survived the fire and is ready to use it.
Because here's what I've learned from working with thousands of women in this space: the ones who thrive aren't the ones who "get over it" fastest. They're the ones who understand that what looks like an ending is actually an initiation.
And that initiation doesn't end when the papers are signed. It deepens as you encounter each new layer of yourself, each new opportunity to choose differently, each new relationship that mirrors back what still needs integration.
What feels like falling apart is actually falling into place.
What seems like you're "not healing fast enough" is actually you doing the deep work most people avoid.
But only if you stop judging your timeline and start honouring your process.
Listen, AfterGlow is NOT a program - this is an entire ecosystem. A sanctuary with everything you need, whenever you need it.
Because separation isn't a one-time event, right?
It's the divorce papers, then it's the first Christmas alone, then it's the kids asking why daddy doesn't live here anymore, then it's dating again, then it's co-parenting drama, then it's rebuilding confidence, then it's... LIFE. Constantly.
That's the beauty of what I've created - it's not just "here's some healing content, good luck." It's "here's your library of wisdom AND here's me, every single week, ready to help you navigate whatever life just threw at you."
You need support when your ex sends that manipulative text at 11pm.
You need guidance when your teenage daughter starts acting out.
You need perspective when that new relationship brings up all your trust issues.
You need someone who gets it when you're questioning everything again.
This is your sanctuary.
Your place to land.
Your people who understand.
Forever.
Who this is for:
✨ The woman who's newly separated - You're in the thick of it. Grief, overwhelm, practical chaos, and emotional whiplash. You're processing the shock that this is actually your life now, and you need someone who gets that some days survival is victory enough.
✨ The woman navigating a manipulative ex - Whether newly separated or years out, you're dealing with continued control, gaslighting, manipulation through the kids or finances. You need to rebuild your sense of reality while protecting yourself and your children.
✨ The woman drowning in overwhelm - Single parenting, financial stress, legal battles, family reactions, social circle changes. The practical load feels impossible, and you're wondering how other people make this look easy.
✨ The woman processing unexpected grief - You thought you'd be relieved, but you're mourning the loss of your dreams, your family structure, your identity. The grief comes in waves and you don't know how to navigate it.
✨ The woman who's been single for years - You've done the work, or so you thought. But recent experiences have shown you there are still patterns, still walls, still ways you're protecting yourself that are also limiting you.
✨ The woman who's tried dating again - You've had situationships that never quite formed. You've attracted emotionally unavailable people. You've found yourself settling for less than you deserve, and you can't figure out why.
✨ The woman who's had a string of disappointments - Each relationship reflects back something different you thought you'd healed. You're starting to see the patterns, but you don't know how to break them.
✨ The woman who's been intentionally single - You've focused on yourself, your career, your children. But now you're realizing that avoiding relationships entirely isn't the same as being ready for healthy ones.
✨ The woman who left years ago - You made the brave choice to end your marriage, but you're still learning who you are outside of that dynamic. You thought you'd figured it out, but life keeps showing you new layers.
✨ The woman who was left years ago - You've rebuilt your life, but you're still discovering ways the betrayal or abandonment shaped how you move through the world. You want to love again, but you want to do it differently.
✨ The woman whose divorce was "amicable" - Everyone thinks you should be grateful it wasn't messy, but you're dealing with complex emotions about still caring for someone you can't or don't want to be with, and confusion about why you still feel stuck in some areas.
What we're NOT doing:
❌ Pretending this should be linear or faster than it is ❌ Treating your ongoing growth like failure to heal ❌ Rushing you through grief to get to "healed" ❌ Minimizing the impact of ongoing manipulation or abuse ❌ Rushing you into dating before you're ready ❌ Fixing you (because you're not broken) ❌ Bypassing the mess with positive thinking ❌Comparing your timeline to anyone else's
FAQ
What if I can’t make the live calls?
Every call is recorded and uploaded inside your private portal.
You’ll never miss a session — and you can rewatch them anytime for deeper reflection.
How long do I have access?
You get lifetime access to everything — all calls, the community, and course content.
Once you’re in, you’re in for good.
What if I’ve already tried other coaching or therapy?
Perfect. That means you already value growth. This isn’t about talking about your pain — it’s about transforming it through structured long-term coaching, community, and accountability. The post-separation journey is a long-term one.
Is this therapy?
No. The AfterGlow Coaching Container is a coaching experience — focused on action, awareness, and forward momentum. It pairs emotional healing with practical rebuilding.
Do I get personal coaching with you?
Yes. You’ll get live group coaching with me every week, plus direct interaction in The AfterGlow Community. There is also the opportunity to work with me 1:1 as VIP client if you wish.
What We ARE Doing Inside:
Through ongoing, long-term support, we're going to:
✨ Navigate the acute phase with practical support - If you're newly separated, we're focusing on survival first, healing second. You need tools for managing overwhelm, protecting your energy, and making decisions from a place of clarity, not panic.
✨ Develop boundaries that actually work - Especially crucial if you're dealing with a manipulative ex. We're building your ability to protect yourself while co-parenting or navigating ongoing legal issues.
✨ Process grief without getting stuck in it - Whether you're mourning the loss of your marriage or disappointment in post-divorce relationships. Grief is sacred and also temporary.
✨ Stop managing your patterns and start transforming them - Those relationship dynamics that keep showing up? We're getting to the root, not just managing the symptoms.
✨ Build unshakeable trust in your own judgment - Especially important if you've been gaslit or manipulated. Not perfect judgment, but trust in your ability to navigate whatever comes with wisdom and self-compassion.
✨ Create genuine emotional availability - Not just being open to love, but being present enough in your own skin to receive and give love without losing yourself.
✨ Integrate your divorce story without being defined by it - Your marriage ending was formative, not final. It's part of your story, not the whole story.
✨ Learn to recognize healthy dynamics - After years of dysfunction, healthy can feel boring or wrong. We're rewiring your nervous system to recognize safety and depth.
✨ Navigate the practical reality of life after marriage - Co-parenting dynamics, financial independence, introducing new partners to your children when you're ready, starting over at any age.
✨ Understand attachment patterns without becoming enslaved by them - Knowledge is power, but only when it leads to choice, not paralysis.
Your Invesment
I stumbled across Carla “accidentally” one evening watching The Project on TV. I was drawn to Carla’s energy and I really resonated with her message. I was done with making the same mistakes and was ready to put myself first and make some changes.
Investing in myself and having Carla as my mentor has to be one of the most pivotal, life changing points in my life. All woman should feel their special goddess energy and celebrate it!
Carla has helped me in more ways imaginable and I am excited to see where my future will take me.
Jac
From the very first 1:1 session and moments in the Afterglow program I completely trusted and felt safe in Carla's guidance.
Having friends and family can be comforting however really the guidance of someone who has seen this before and has the answers to navigate you professionally and quickly through it was so incredibly valuable and grounding. You don’t need people to tell you want you want to hear- you need people to tell you the how it actually is!
With Carla, I have worked on myself more over the past 12 months than in my entire life. I’ve built an entirely new life and unlearnt so many things that I had believed to be true about love, life and relationships.
Alicia
This isn't therapy. This isn't just life coaching. This isn't about positive thinking your way to happiness.
This is about understanding that we aren't born from easy times - we're forged in the ongoing fire of transformation. And honey, your fire doesn't end when your marriage does.
Whether you're newly separated and barely breathing through the pain, or years out and still discovering new layers of healing, whether you left or were left, whether you're dealing with a high-conflict ex or navigating amicable co-parenting - you're here because you know there's deeper work to do.
Not because you're broken or behind, but because you're committed to doing the integration work that creates lasting transformation.
I've seen thousands of women choose this path. I've watched them emerge from fresh devastation and from years-old patterns, not just healed, but more powerful than they ever imagined possible. Not because their marriages ending was a gift, but because they had the courage to use their experience as fuel for their evolution.
Some things you grow from or you capitulate. We don't get to capitulate. We only get to bounce back.
Because what looks like an ending is actually an initiation. And your initiation doesn't end - it deepens.