Hi, I'm Carla Da Costa
Coach. Author. Mum. Business Woman. Drinker of Too Much Coffee.
You do not need to be falling apart to deserve support or work with me.
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Most of the women I work with are not in crisis.
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They are intelligent, capable, and successful in life. They handle responsibility. They show up. From the outside, it often looks like they are doing well.
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And yet, when it comes to love and self-worth (which is so often also attached to our financial stability), something feels quietly painful.
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Their romantic lives keep undermining their sense of self.
Not through chaos, but through subtle erosion.
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They find themselves in connections where they give more than they receive. They tolerate emotional inconsistency. They question their value in ways they never do in other areas of life. They are not confused. They are emotionally unsupported.
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And it can so often flow onto destabilise how we show up in other areas of our life. Our careers. Our life choices and direction. Our growth and evolvement. Our money. Our sense of self.
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I see you because I once was you.
This Is The Woman I Work With
I support women who are functioning, they're holding it together, not falling apart.
Women who have insight, self-awareness, and success, yet are tired of having to be strong, capable, especially in love.
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My work is not about fixing you, motivating you, or teaching you how to perform confidence.
It is about healing you, bringing you clarity and growth, helping you feel emotionally safe, consistent, grounded and self-led so your standards are lived in your body, manifested into your life and not just understood in your mind.
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This work is steady.
Relational.
And deeply respectful of your intelligence.​
My work grows individuals and changes lives.
Hi there, I'm Carla.
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I know this territory intimately.
I left my marriage, a stay at home Mum, in 2016 with two young daughters under five and had to rebuild my life from the inside out.
At that time, I was learning how to stand on my own emotionally, financially, and relationally, while questioning who I was outside of the life I had known for years.
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I'd never had a bill in my own name.
Never owned my own business.
Newly graduated as a coach.
I had little to no sense of who I was as a woman without a man calling all the shots and deciding our life direction.
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Today I stand here a very different self-made woman in her early 40's.
With a multiple six figure business I built from my own passion, purpose, intelligence and desire to change the conversation around divorce and life thereafter for divorcee's.
A big personal energy that energetically carries many clients through their own challenges and life seasons with ease.
A depth of experience personally and professionally that I transfer to my clients through my 1:1 coaching services, my long-term support containers and in my books.
I won't lie to you...I'm pretty no nonsense as much as I am a creative and I can certainly have a "take-no-prisoners" approach at times to my clients goals and life.
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I wasn't born this woman.
Life carved me into her.
Equal parts grit and grace.
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What I learned through this season of recreating my identity and bouncing back in this chapter of my life is this:
You can change your circumstances, your appearance, your lifestyle, and even your confidence, and still keep repeating the same relational, financial and self patterns if your inner world remains unsupported and unhealed.
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Insight alone is not enough.
Willpower is not enough.
Strength without emotional safety and emotional growth eventually becomes exhausting.
My Approach
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​I have worked with men and women for over six years, supporting them through the end of marriages and long-term relationships and into their next chapter of life.
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Some individuals come to me before they leave, seeking clarity, self-trust, and emotional steadiness.
Others come after they have left and want support integrating what they have been through so it does not define or limit what comes next.
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Sometimes that work leads to separation.
Sometimes it leads to repair.
Always, it leads to deeper self-trust.
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I am also the author of three widely read books on divorce and love, written to support women through this transition with honesty, empowerment and compassion.
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About AfterGlow
AfterGlow is my core long-term support coaching container.
It is for women who are tired of analysing their patterns alone and are ready for consistent, intelligent , grounding emotional support and growth. Moving on after a marriage has ended is a long-term journey. This container recognises and supports that truth. This is not fast work or surface-level change. It is integration, embodiment, and steadiness over time. You can learn more here.
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Working with me 1:1
I offer a limited number of private 1:1 coaching spaces.
This work is for men and women who want personal, consistent support as they navigate relationship patterns, emotional self-trust, and major life transitions.
1:1 coaching allows us to work closely and steadily together. It offers space for nuance, honesty, and deeper integration, without rushing or overwhelming the process.
Some choose this support while they are leaving or considering leaving a marriage. Others come after separation, when the noise has settled and they are ready to rebuild their inner world, career, finances and future relationships with intention.
This is not crisis support or surface-level coaching. It is relational work that honours your intelligence and capacity, while offering the steadiness, groundedness and learnt wisdom many have been missing.
If you are drawn to this level of support, please explore this option for women here and for men here.
Facts About Me
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LIFE THINGS
I live in coastal regional NSW.
I have two teenage daughters who live in Perth, Western Australia.
I fly too much to see them but I suck it up because I love where I live and I love them.
I'm an outside the box thinker and so my life is a little outside the box too. I've learnt to embrace being a little eccentric.
I love to collect things to keep in my house that bring meaning and hold memories.
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CURRENT
OBSESSIONS
The gym.
Early morning beach walks.
Astrology.
My life.
Alternative ancient history.
The reincarnation cycle and what that means.
Precious metals and bullion.
Weekly saunas and day spa visits.
Staying on point health wise and spiritually.
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NEXT DREAM
DESTINATIONS
I went to Egypt in 2025 solo which was mind blowing. On the bucket list right now is Lord Howe Island, Vietnam, Morocco and another ancient wonder site...perhaps Peru or Jordan.
Professional Qualifications
​Life Coach through the Beautiful You Coaching Academy Class of 2016.
Certified Law of Attraction Coach.
Certified Life Transformation Coach.
Former co-owner of a Pilates Studio
Shaman. My Shaman name is ​Skjaldmær which is norse for Sheild-Maiden.
Published author through Kind Press Publishing house.
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Interviews & Podcasts​
Carla has written and spoken for numerous publications including The Project, Channel 10 and 7 news, news.com.au, MamaMia, ABC Radio, The Age Newspaper, 2GB Talkback, The Daily Telegraph, The Huffington Post, Inspired Coach Magazine, Marie Claire magazine and more.​​
Media
BIO
Carla Da Costa is an author on divorce and a divorce coach. She works with women and men who are separating or divorced through her private coaching practice, her online programs and her books.
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Through her work Carla supports and inspires mend and women to make this next season of their life, the best season of their life. Carla has become a modern voice on divorce asking is divorce really a failure or could this actually be the best life pivot that ever happened to you?
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Carla’s intention is to support and empower men and women to become a product of their greatest self-expression. If she can change her life and how she views her life and potential than you can too. In this area she is a powerhouse.
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Carla is currently living in coastal regional NSW, Australia. She is a proud Mum of two beautiful daughters. She spends most of her time at the beach, is forever removing sand from her car, learning about something no one would ever expect from her, catching up with friends, doing coffee and lunch with loved ones and living on Vietnamese and Japanese food (with the occasional Portuguese custard tart thrown in).
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And yes, Carla went through her own divorce in 2016 (she couldn't do this work, like she does, if she hadn't).
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Her life motto is: 'I blow by anything that slows me down' ~ Guru Jagat. And she lives by it. Most of the time.