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This program is for the woman who has moved on from her marriage having ended.
She's finding herself.
She's redefining who she wants to be and she
wants to create full success in her life, love & career.




  • Be financially secure and set up as a woman - however this looks for you. Some of us are better suited to renting for a time, others home ownership is the goal. Sometimes we're navigating career changes or business growth alongside our financial security. We're learning to be our own successful providers, to navigate our financial mindset. Whatever your scenario, we desire security and financial growth for you.

  • Reclaim your self and who you are as a woman. You lost your identity, your intuitive guidance within and sense of self in your marriage. You have always mostly identified as a role you've played for others in your life - Mum, wife, daughter or your career title. You're not really sure who you are as a woman or confident to know you will be loved and appreciated simply for being you. Not for what you do. This is where we begin to truly embody the vibe of I am loved for who I am, not what I do.

  • You want love in your life, but not just any kind of love. The kind that is worth your time and attention. That allows you to be in your feminine, a love that supports you, nurtures you and equally gives back to you. This is a conscious version of relationship that requires two individuals to be conscious, awake to their shadow, healing through their inner mess. These relationships are out there and they almost always can only ever occur later in our life because we have experienced what love is not and who we are not to such a degree that it woke us up. This love journey always starts with us first.

  • You want to come of age in your journey. To step into your feminine leadership personally and professionally. For your journey and growth to be a gift to yourself and others. To be empowered. To inspire your children with how you live your life and who you are. To inspire others around you.

  • You no longer desire to be defined by your ex or your past.

If this doesn't quite resonate with where you are right now my other online program here will and I recommend to explore there.


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Rediscovering You after a marriage has ended, a better more wise self for it having ended, is going to look like this for you... 

First Healing From Your Past:

One of the core components to discovering who you are is to heal from your past. When you haven't fully healed, it blinds you.


Hurt, grief, unresolved childhood trauma and a lack of self-belief, self-worth impacts on our judgement and perspective (hello to why you chose your marriage!)

This skewed vision leads us to end up with the wrong person, or to remain in situations longer than we should. And ultimately our perceived abilities and goals for ourself will be limited too...and you won't even know it because it's all your perspective allows you to see!

Ultimately when you haven't let go and evolved out of past hurt and pain, it blocks you from being vulnerable and opening up to life and love again. And vulnerability is key and necessary for you to not just receive and fully open up to love, but to fully let yourself be seen and loved for who you are as a woman personally and professionally.

And lastly, not healing from our past stops us from exuding positive energy. Positive energy is necessary to create and attract the life experience and version of self we seek.

It is the foundational work that we can't skip as much as we might wish too! Please view my other online program if this is where you find yourself here. 

Then Finding & Stepping Into Your Purpose:

Who are we when we've let go of what was no longer meant for us?When we stop being who others need us to be or remain?.

This is you living your dharma - life as your true expression of self. An evolved, on purpose adult. We have learnt through contrast and experience in our life what we don't want, who we are not, what isn't aligned with our values and now we step into the individuation process of discovering who we really are.

The majority of first marriages in society today are a reflection of our childhood conditioning, trauma and societal/familial pressure and modelling of what success looks like more than they are a reflection of unconditional love.

That's why they fail. As soon as we step out of this modelling and grow into a more mature, wise version of us the relationship becomes imbalanced and challenged.

There are many adults right now who up til this point in their life have not been walking their purpose because they were trying to do so with an unaligned partner and make it work. An unaligned career and make it work. Living in the wrong place. And so on and so on.

The wrong friends, your job, your partner, other negative associations in your life can represent an anchor in our life- holding us back, limiting our potential, something we are always trying to rise above the circumstance of.


In order to know what fits now, you must know who you really are and where you are destined to go now that no one is no longer defining who you need to stay.


This is the woman's self-journey.

To be in the drivers seat of her life in her career, finances, growth and love life.

No longer in the passenger seat.


Fully owning her gifts.

Her presence.

Her feminine leadership.

Magic success.

A magnetic foundation on which to build this next season of life from.

The focus of this program.


Who Am I?

It is sometimes a fine line to share 'who am I?!'


There is the woman who I am in my private life in my intimate and familial relationships. And there is the me that you know from reading my books, from watching me share my coaching and personal journey on social media and in my newsletters.

Certainly you know and I have gifted you a deep insight into my psyche. The parts that I know shared will benefit your journey.

But my personal growth journey to rediscovering who I am as a woman post my marriage ending, has run much deeper.

Today I am a much more driven, feminine and in someways kookier in my life than many expect from me! I am routinely underestimated by women in their masculine energy and by 'professional' career men - I find this deeply amusing to witness.

From a stay at home Mum, in a financially and emotionally codependent marriage to a 'successful' high performance coach for women who are wanting to succeed in life, love and their careers after a marriage ends today.

I've walked the entire path myself spiritually, practically and in my mindset. Which is why I'm able to coach women through the entire journey of...

How am I going to do this?

Do this financially? Find love? Who am I? 

How will I create a new secure, financially safe life as a single woman.

I've been there in all the ways, often through worse circumstances than I can ever share on social media or in my books publicly.


I am a woman who lost herself and compromised her self-worth for love.

I moved to the other side of the country for my once husband before moving back 19 years later because she couldn't ignore her inner voice any longer that this wasn't her place and had never been - it was his.

I followed the 'success' pathway that life had sold to me as being the 'smart' thing to do as a young adult.

I got good grades. I went to one of the best Universities in Australia. I was gifted a full scholarship. I married the attractive guy. We bought a home. Had two beautiful children. Travelled. Had our own business. We created that successful beautiful life that I now coin a 'successful marriage without fulfilment.' Everything on paper looked amazing to the outside world. But below the surface it was not.

I left my marriage in 2016 and so began the process of undoing it all inside and out and redefining what success in life actually looked like to me. 

In my former life I worked in dentistry.

Today I am a leading thought leader on divorce and the journey after leaving a marriage for women here in Australia. I am a creative (which I always was before deciding to step into health science and dentistry because of my high grades) and have published two books on divorce and the journey to finding love after divorce for women. 

There is very little in my life, inside or out, that exists from my former life today  aside from the significant people in my world, my two daughters, my family and my closest of friends.

The journey has been free'ing, liberating, amazing while sometimes lonely, overwhelming, challenging and heartbreaking.

But I wouldn't change a thing. 

This is my coming of age program.

Born from the wisdom of my journey and everything I've moved through personally, so I can bring you to a truly empowered, successful and thriving in your life point faster than I was able to.

Say yes to this journey. You will never regret it.

Hear What Past Clients Have To Say

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When I first read Carla’s book, Seconds Please, I felt like I was reading about myself on almost every page. My feelings and thoughts, and some experiences, were all being articulated back to me in ways I didn’t know were possible. It felt like I was truly understanding myself for the time, and allowing myself to have so much compassion and grace for the woman who was undergoing that journey. That woman being me.

Twelve months and many Zoom calls with Carla later, I am in awe of the growth that has happened since I started working with Carla.

I’ve just finished my last call with Carla with tears streaming down my face. Tears of relief, of joy and of hope. Carla has helped me open myself up to so much possibility in life, and has shown me that I was always capable of being my own biggest advocate.

I am moving into a new year with such a different mindset and with so much optimism for what lies ahead.


Thank you, Carla.



I can't say enough good things about Carla. I found Carla through instagram, she popped up in my feed a few months before my marriage ended. After my marriage broke down, I reached out.

From those very first conversations I completely trusted and felt safe in Carla's guidance, in the facts of the how's and why's my marriage hadn't and wouldn't work any longer. Over the following months during the untiling of my former life, I genuinely felt supported having Carla next to me.

Having friends and family can be comforting however really the guidance of someone who had seen this before and has the answer, was so incredibly valuable and grounding. You don't need people to tell you what you want to hear- you need people to tell you how it actually is!

With Carla, I have worked on myself more over the past 12 months than in my entire life. I've built an entirely new positive vision for my life and unlearnt so many things I believed to be true about love, life and relationships.

Thank you so much Carla for helping me achieve all that I have and for being the exact thing I needed.

*Early 2024 update - Alicia has just purchased her own dream home 12-16 months post her marriage ending.

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I have worked with Carla for the last 12 months and it has been life changing for me. I participated in Newly Divorced, Rediscovering You and one on one mentoring support with Carla.


I have learned a lot about myself and Carla has shared with me many new strategies and tools for dealing with the challenges that life can throw at us.


Because Carla has actually lived the experience of separation/divorce and the process of finding love after, she is able to give real life advice about how to approach certain situations. Her level of understanding of the feelings and the stages that go with a big life change like this is great because she has been where we have!


Carla provides a safe space with no judgement and practical, clear advice on how to improve areas of your life that you are struggling with.

Having said that, Carla’s bullshit detector is very finely tuned and she will hold you accountable for the ways you may be self sabotaging or selling yourself short.

The support and advice I have received from Carla has been amazing and I wouldn’t hesitate to recommend her coaching.

Rediscovering You is my coming of age program that encapsulates my personal journey of fully coming home to me after my marriage ended in 2015.

It is the step by step framework I have been leading my clients through once they've healed from their marriage and now want to soar in their next season of life.

A completely new woman.
With an 
entirely different energy.
And a whole new purpose.
Yes, yes, yes.




Understand your own future personal, unique journey of rediscovery and course correction that you need to take. Understand how to walk it.



Tap into your souls journey and dharma. Discover who you really are as a woman and how to tap into that shining, magnetic, feminine version of you that will grow you personally and professionally.



Create your own unique version of post first marriage success WITH fulfilment, not success WITHOUT fulfilment. 



Mastering the dance of living in the 3D world while mastering our energy in the 5D through our practices, knowledge and mindset. This is us truly stepping into our feminine qualities, intuition, spirituality and ability to manifest now.



Understanding the process of self-expansion and growth. Identify your favourite forms of self-sabotage and how to overcome them so we can continue to rise, shine and be magnetic as a woman in a masculine dominated energy world.



How to stay in alignment while life happens around us. To not lose our way, fall into self-doubt, compromise or lose ourselves again for love, lifestyle, money or fear again.



Fully embody and master the woman you desire to become now and into the future. You owning your path. Trusting the process. Glowing. Magnetic. In flow. So beautiful. The world needs more of these embodied women now more than ever.

'Rediscovering You' is my follow on program to my foundational program 'Newly Divorced.' This is where we really turn up the notch on ourselves and our lives because we've healed.
This is where we decide to really rise and shine professionally and personally. To move on and make real magic in our lives with a beautiful masculine man by our sides (whether this is a now or a one day in the future desire for you).

We are grateful for our past - the good and the not so good, but more than anything, we are open and excited for everything we want to bring into our future life and experience.


I Invite You To Join Me In This 3 Month Program & To Step Into The Energy Of Being A Woman With A Life, A Career, A Love That Fully Lights Them Up

In this powerful, highly supportive online coaching program, we become the woman who knows who they are, where they're going and what they want. The woman who is connected, aligned, fully on her path. Not superficially. Deeply.

This is you achieving accelerated fast results because now we truly get out of our own way.

When we are aligned and connected with who we really are then all areas of our life and self go through an up-level.

Why Is It So Hard For This Generation Of Woman To Choose Herself And Believe In Herself?

Why can she encourage, support and lift her own daughters up to be empowered, smart women with self-worth of the world yet struggle to choose it and live it for herself?

Why is she made to feel so guilty for choosing herself by family and sometimes friend? So selfish or ungrateful? Why does she allow herself to be manipulated? To let her intuition be gaslit? Why does she feel guilt and shame for putting herself first? Why does she feel fear to go out on her own? 

It is our generational conditioning passed onto us from our Mothers and Fathers who had it passed onto them from their Mothers and Fathers. Intellectually we have broken free from it - which is why we are raising our children with different values and in different ways than how we were raised. But within our own psyche our conditioning keeps us trapped.

We can 'know' intellectually and still struggle to 'do'.

They say the psyche of an adult, and their view of the world, how to get their needs met for love is set within them as a child from between the ages of 0-7 years. Think about that in regards to yourself for a moment - the level of patterning and modelling that you need to undo.

The mirror we can't possibly see within ourselves, because we've never seen the world any differently than through the lens of what we know and believe to be true. It is everything that is keeping you trapped within.



  • Personalised support from Carla in our private members group.

  • The opportunity to include 1:1 sessions with Carla as a VIP client if you wish.

  • Private group and community of like-minded women, moving through the same life season as you.

  • The Rediscovering You Road Map: Let Carla lead you through over 25+ hours of pre-recorded video content for you to be able to listen to in your own time and privacy. Carla has paced and structured this program purposefully to unfold in such a way that supports your growth and healing in a way that will accelerate and fast-track your success. The step by step pathway is on purpose after coaching 1000's of women through this process.

  • Lifetime access to the program and the community.

  • Private online members portal for members only, where all of the programs content will be released to you over the three month period. 

  • Plus so much more content and teachings that you're not even aware that you need to tap into your highest potential as a woman in this next chapter of her life.

How Will You Feel By The End Of Our 3 Months Together?


Alive. Empowered. Confident. In your power. Comfortable with you are, what you have to offer others and with life coming together for you.



On purpose. Wise. Fully embracing of your journey in the past because it's a gift to your present and future. You have come of age.



You are living as your best version of self and attracting in life, love and career opportunities that are an energetic match to this version of you.



You're experiencing full success. Life is in flow and the big things you desire are actually coming together and manifesting for you now. You feel in touch with yourself more than ever and your light as a woman.



You are shining and people can see the difference in you. Your presence inspires others. And you're comfortable if your energy triggers others now that you've changed. Their discomfort or words doesn't cause you to dim or hold yourself back.


It is one of the biggest blessings in my life.

For my work through my two books and my online programs to be the powerful catalyst to create such powerful shifts and successful life results for the beautiful women who have been through them.


And it brings an even deeper level of fulfilment to me because of the personal life experience that I have moved through and come from myself. 

To be that woman inspiring and supporting another woman.

'Rediscovering You' is the cherry on top program to my other online programs. It is the ultimate refinement of a woman. A woman who wants more and desires to step into the energy of this now personally and professionally - first for herself yes, but also for others.

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Carla Da Costa is a published author and a divorce coach. She works with women who are separating or divorced through her private coaching practice, her online program and her books. 


Through her work Carla supports and inspires women to make this next season of their life, the best season of their life. Carla has become a modern voice on divorce asking is divorce really a failure or could this actually be the best thing that ever happened to you?

Carla’s intention is to support and empower men and women to become a product of their greatest self-expression. If she can change her life and how she views her life and potential than you can too. In this area she is a powerhouse.

Carla is currently living between the Gold Coast and Perth, Australia with her two daughters. She spends most of her time at the beach, is forever removing sand from her car, swimming endless laps in the pool, catching up with friends, doing coffee and lunch with loved ones and living on Vietnamese and Japanese food (with the occasional Portuguese custard tart thrown in).

Her life motto is: 'I blow by anything that slows me down' ~ Guru Jagat. 

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