Where Women Rebuild Their Identity, Standards & Life After Divorce
Your marriage ended.
Maybe recently.
Maybe years ago.
Maybe you’re still in the middle of the separation.
Maybe you’ve already rebuilt a whole new life on the outside.
But somewhere deep down, you know:
the work didn’t end when the relationship did.
Because divorce doesn’t just end a relationship.
It exposes:
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the ways you abandoned yourself to keep love
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the patterns you normalized
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the standards you betrayed
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the nervous system you built around survival
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the parts of yourself you lost trying to hold everything together
And eventually?
Life starts showing you what still needs healing.
Through:
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emotionally unavailable relationships
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people pleasing
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anxiety
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overthinking
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self-doubt
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settling
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emotional exhaustion
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attraction to familiar chaos
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difficulty trusting yourself fully again
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financial fear and lack mindset
That’s the phase most people aren't prepared for or don't expect.
The integration phase.
The becoming.
The part where you stop only trying to recover from what happened and start becoming the woman you were always supposed to be underneath it.
You survived the ending.
Now it’s time to rebuild the woman underneath it.
AfterGlow is the long-term reinvention space for women healing from divorce, emotional neglect/abuse, betrayal, self-abandonment and loss of self-identity — who are ready to stop merely recovering and start becoming.
I first reached out to Carla not realising how much she would change my life. Every time we spoke, she just knew. She knew what was going on beneath the surface, even before I could articulate it. And with that knowing, she would give me exactly what I needed whether it was a breakthrough in personal growth, relationships, or stepping into my power as a businesswoman.
Through her coaching and program, I’ve learned to trust my intuition, break old patterns, and live in deep alignment with my values. She’s shown me that I don’t have to follow the crowd or the chaos. I can do it my way with clarity, soul, and integrity.
Working with Carla hasn’t just made me better in business; it’s made me a better human. There’s nobody like her, and I’m endlessly grateful to have her in my corner.
Suz
AfterGlow Is Not Just About Healing
It’s about rebuilding yourself differently this time.
Inside AfterGlow we focus on:
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identity rebuilding
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emotional healing
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nervous system regulation
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self-trust
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standards and boundaries
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relationship patterns
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feminine leadership
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emotional availability
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confidence
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self-worth
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conscious dating after divorce
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healing emotional abuse and self-abandonment
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creating a life that actually feels aligned
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navigating toxic and manipulative exes into the future
This is not surface-level healing.
This is the deeper work most people don’t realise they need to do until life keeps repeating the lesson.
Hi, I’m Carla.
I’m a coach, author and the creator of AfterGlow — a long-term reinvention space for women rebuilding their identity, standards and life after divorce.
For the past several years, I’ve guided thousands of women through the emotional, psychological and identity shifts that happen after the end of a marriage.
Because divorce is rarely just about the relationship ending.
It’s about what the ending exposes:
the self-abandonment,
the survival patterns,
the loss of identity,
the emotional exhaustion,
the ways women disconnect from themselves trying to hold everything together.
And eventually?
Life asks you to rebuild differently.
My own marriage ended in 2016 after being with the same person since I was in my early 20's.
At the time, I thought I had lost myself inside the relationship.
What I eventually realised was far more confronting:
I had never fully known myself before it.
The years afterwards became their own initiation.
The relationships that reflected back the parts of me that still lacked self-trust and self-love.
The patterns I thought I had healed.
The moments I questioned why growth still felt layered and non-linear.
What I’ve learned personally — and through coaching thousands of women — is this:
Healing is not a finish line.
Growth happens in layers.
Self-worth deepens in layers.
Standards deepen in layers.
Identity deepens in layers.
And that isn’t failure.
That’s evolution.
That’s the ongoing process of becoming fully yourself.
Today my work focuses on helping men and women rebuild themselves after divorce in a way that feels emotionally healthy, self-led, grounded and deeply aligned — not just externally successful.
Because the goal is not simply to survive what happened to you.
It’s to become the woman who no longer abandons herself in love, life or relationships again.
Working with Carla through my various emotions, chapters has been life changing. The program has assisted me greatly and my 1:1 coaching has been invaluable. Carla’s authentic and genuine style (and helped by a wicked sense of humour) has helped me navigate my journey with confidence and clarity.
Carla’s refreshing take on separations where it’s about focusing on our growth and not sitting in the negative energy is refreshing and empowering.
With Carla’s help I am feeling confident and positive about my future as a 42 year old divorcee. Having Carla in your corner is truly life changing.
Louise
I have truly transformed my life and the person I am thanks to Carla. She was the guiding light I needed.
I feel so grateful for Carla coming into my life as I know with certainty I would not be in this place in my life had we not connected.
Had someone told me 5 years ago where I would be today in my business and personal life post my marriage ending I would never have believed them!! I honestly am in the best place of my life and I attribute so much of that to Carla, her coaching and her program.
Samantha
What You Receive Inside:
🔥 70+ hours of transformational coaching content
🔥 Weekly live coaching calls with Carla
🔥 Lifetime access to the AfterGlow private community
🔥 Ongoing support navigating:
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divorce
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emotional abuse
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co-parenting
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dating after separation
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manipulative ex dynamics
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identity rebuilding
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nervous system healing
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standards and relationships
🔥 Somatic tools, hypnotherapy, exercises, meditations and practical frameworks for every phase of rebuilding
🔥 A long-term space designed for integration — not temporary motivation
This Is For You If:
✨ You’re rebuilding after divorce, betrayal or emotional abuse
✨ You’ve survived the practical ending but know there’s deeper work to do
✨ You keep attracting emotionally unavailable dynamics (and this might be several years post your marriage ending).
✨ You’re tired of over-giving, overthinking about your ex and settling for less than you deserve
✨ You want to trust yourself again
✨ You want healthier love, healthier standards and a healthier relationship with yourself
✨ You’re ready to stop surviving and start becoming
✨ It's your time now and life gets to look and feel very differently into the future
What we're NOT doing:
❌ Pretending healing is linear or easy ❌ Rushing grief ❌ Teaching toxic positivity
❌ Keeping you emotionally attached to your past forever❌ Rushing you into dating before you're ready ❌ Treating divorce like the end of your story or a failure ❌
Comparing your journey or timeline to anyone else's
FAQ
What if I can’t make the live coaching calls?
Every call is recorded and uploaded inside your private portal.
You’ll never miss a session — and you can rewatch them anytime for deeper reflection.
I haven't left my marriage yet but I want to leave is this program suitable for me?
Yes. If you know your marriage is over and you feel stuck from leaving then AfterGlow is for you.
How long do I have access?
You get lifetime access to everything — all calls, the community, and course content.
Once you’re in, you’re in for good.
What if I’ve already tried other coaching or therapy?
Perfect. That means you already value growth. This isn’t about talking about your pain — it’s about transforming it through structured long-term coaching, community, and accountability. The post-separation journey is a long-term one.
Is this therapy?
No. The AfterGlow Coaching Container is a coaching experience — focused on action, awareness, and forward momentum. It pairs emotional healing with practical rebuilding.
Do I get personal coaching with you?
Yes. You’ll get live group coaching with me every week, plus direct interaction in The AfterGlow Community. There is also the opportunity to work with me 1:1 as VIP client if you wish.
What We ARE Doing:
We are rebuilding the woman underneath the survival mode. Who left her marriage recently or who left her marriage years ago and if she's honest with herself...she's still internally rebuilding.
The woman who:
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trusts herself
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has standards
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no longer confuses chaos with chemistry
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stops abandoning herself in relationships
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leads herself emotionally
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creates a life that feels grounded, powerful and fully hers
Because this was never just about your marriage ending or the divorce.
It’s about who you become afterwards.
And that changes everything.
Your Invesment
I stumbled across Carla “accidentally” one evening watching The Project on TV. I was drawn to Carla’s energy and I really resonated with her message. I was done with making the same mistakes and was ready to put myself first and make some changes.
Investing in myself and having Carla as my mentor has to be one of the most pivotal, life changing points in my life. All woman should feel their special goddess energy and celebrate it!
Carla has helped me in more ways imaginable and I am excited to see where my future will take me.
Jac
From the very first 1:1 session and moments in the Afterglow program I completely trusted and felt safe in Carla's guidance.
Having friends and family can be comforting however really the guidance of someone who has seen this before and has the answers to navigate you professionally and quickly through it was so incredibly valuable and grounding. You don’t need people to tell you want you want to hear- you need people to tell you the how it actually is!
With Carla, I have worked on myself more over the past 12 months than in my entire life. I’ve built an entirely new life and unlearnt so many things that I had believed to be true about love, life and relationships.
Alicia
This is not about rushing yourself to “move on.”
And it’s not about pretending your divorce didn’t shape you.
It did.
But what you do next matters.
Because what ends after divorce is not just a relationship.
It’s an identity.
A survival pattern.
A way of loving men.
A way of abandoning yourself to keep love, peace or belonging.
And eventually, life asks you to rebuild differently and do differently.
That’s the work we do inside AfterGlow.
Not because you’re broken.
Not because you’re behind.
But because you’re ready to stop living from survival mode and start becoming the woman underneath it.
The women who transform after divorce are not the women who avoid the work.
They are the women willing to meet themselves honestly.
To rebuild their standards.
To deepen their self-trust.
To heal the patterns that once kept them stuck.
To create lives, relationships and identities that finally feel aligned.
I’ve watched thousands of women do exactly that.
Not because what happened to them was fair.
Not because divorce was “meant to happen.”
But because they chose to use their experience as a catalyst for transformation instead of a life sentence of survival.
Because this isn’t the end of your story.
It’s the beginning of who you become afterwards.