The program to help you prepare emotionally, financially and practically to leave your marriage. And the program to help you move forward and thrive as a completely new version of self if your marriage has already ended. A better more evolved woman for everything that has happened.
YOU'RE HERE BECAUSE:
Your marriage has ended. Whether it was at your choosing or at theirs.
You're thinking about leaving your marriage or sense it will end soon and you want to feel prepared emotionally and practically for what's to come.
You're feeling a mixture of all the emotions. Grief, hurt, shame, guilt, fear, abandonment, worry, overwhelm and it's holding you back from moving on..
You want your divorce to be the positive turning point in your life for you and your children.
This is the first time you've been single in a very long time and it all feels very daunting to think about doing life on your own.
You've been separated and divorced for quite some time but you are still carrying a lot of hurt, guilt and woundedness and it is affecting your present life and current relationship.
You are in your masculine energy more than your feminine. You feel closed, emotionally repressed, out of flow, disconnected to your sensual side, your intuition, your emotional self, your vulnerability AND you are tired. Tired of being the one who has to make it happen, who is carrying everyone and your relationships. You desire to be nurtured, loved and supported as a woman now.
After so many years of putting everyone else's needs first you're not sure who you are or what you even want for yourself into the future.
You never want to attract a shade of the same partner you just left into your future. New beginnings in everyway.
Your marriage has cost you in your confidence, your self-trust, your self-worth and your sense of self.
And you want to manifest in an entirely different future into your future and learn how to do it with ease (yes, I'm a trained Law Of Attraction coach and I'm incredibly passionate about our ability to create our own life anew because I've done it for myself!)
AS SEEN IN...
LET ME GUESS, YOU'RE FEELING SOME OF OR A MIXTURE OF THESE THINGS:
Grief and sadness at the end of your marriage and the loss of the dream/what could have been. Sadness also if you feel abandoned and discarded.
Fearful about financial changes and your financial future. Your divorce left you feeling financially out of your depth and even a little naive or stupid.
Guilt for breaking up the family and hurting the people you love.
You don't know what you want for yourself now or what you're even capable of. You lack direction and clarity on your future.
Overwhelmed at the thought of navigating life, work, kids on your own.
Worry that you will end up alone and broke.. If you will be ok and how you're going to do this.
Struggling to deal with the unknown of having to start all over again.
Hurt that someone could treat you the way they have.
Tired in mind, body and spirit after years of emotional abuse, gaslighting and toxic behaviour (that may or may not still be going on even though you're separated)
I ALWAYS SAY TO MY CLIENTS
A marriage ending can be the best thing that ever happened to you. So let's make it so for you. Not on a superficial level but deep into your soul.
With long-term relationships we grieve the ending. With short-term relationships we grieve the possibility. One pain is not greater than the other. But the most important thing is we move you out of the grief and wounds and into the future with a new sense of positivity and confidence.
No one leaves a marriage wanting to attract a shade of the same partner into our life next. A fresh start for you is going to require an entirely new love blueprint.
And time does not heal all wounds. It's what we do with the time that will change your life.
So the question is… if all the things you’ve been doing up til now haven’t been working then what will?
“How do I call into my life the love and life I desire with ease?”
“How can I trust in my own ability to magnetise into my life what I dream about? When I’ve never been successful at doing it before…”
Hear What Past Members Have To Say
"I have just completed this program and can I just say thank you, truly thank you. I am a different person than I was before this.
I sit back now and reflect on who I am now. I have let go of so much of my past, cut huge emotional ties, leant into who I am and who I want to be, embraced my shadow side, am very self aware and able to deconstruct whats underneath the emotions, and am more confident in who I am and embracing the feminine Goddess in me.
I finally feel ready to start moving on and meet somebody, which is not a space I thought I would be in for a while. But my focus is on my life and creating my life I love, not finding someone else to make my life great. At the time, I didnt realise the growth in myself, but I see it now in reflection.
Your program is incredible and had helped me in more ways than I can say. Thank you for being you, for all you have been through and all that you share and teach us. I am so so grateful to be part of your life and all the wonderful things you bring to this world
Much love, xxxxx"
":I came to Carla embarrassed and humiliated about the clichéd end of my 20-year marriage.
This program helped me immensely. I was no longer the ‘victim’ and for the first time in my life I found myself excited to be in the driver’s seat.
Yes, I was grieving the loss of the family life I had planned in my head, the future that will never be … but Carla helped open my eyes to a whole NEW world of possibilities.
An empowering program, that helped me regain my confidence, direction, and drive"
"How to thank a woman who has completely transformed your life? I have been working with Carla for 5 months to try and break toxic habits and living a life of playing small and safe.
All I can say is in this short time with Carla I have learnt and grown more then I have in my whole adult life.
Carla challenged my thought process and self talk and helped me transform my life, not only have I changed my career path but have changed my energy so much so that people around me have commented on it, and wanted to know why I seemed so different.
I have gone from an over giver with no boundaries, to someone who is not afraid to ask for what I want/need and have the ability to set boundaries in my life, I now live to make me happy, not everyone else!
I have really enjoyed every step of this journey, Carla’s coaching style is calming, positive and intuitive, investing in myself by joining this community was one of the most rewarding decisions I have ever made"
Time to completely move on and make your marriage ending the best thing that ever happened to you
(even if you don't quite believe this possible for you right now)
In Newly Divorced, I’m going to show you exactly how to move on with your life and reinvent yourself. This is you doing the inner subconscious work to change your blueprint about love, career, finance and what you believe about yourself.
Very rarely does someone come to me having not listened to tonnes of podcast episodes and having read many inspirational self-help books first. Only for it to have not really moved them forward or changed too much in their life concretely. This is because this kind of content is not 'the work.' It is merely the inspiration to help you see the voids and lack within yourself so you can then do 'the work' on these elements in yourself.
If books and podcasts worked to change individuals psyche and blueprints then everyone would be today out living as their best, highest version of self. And they are not.
This 3 month program covers all the emotional and practical steps a woman needs to learn and embody energetically to make going through a marriage ending the best thing that ever happened to her.
A catalyst that will see you step into your highest, best version of self as a woman both personally and in your career/finances.
I've been there. I went through my own separation and divorce in 2016 and I know the pain and uncertainty that comes with a marriage ending. It's why I do the work that I do today. To help support women through the emotional storm that is getting a divorce, moving on with your life, doing the work on yourself to to improve and evolve afterwards all while trying to keep it altogether.
Divorce triggered every fear and self-doubt in me that I carried and didn't even know I had. About my potential as a single woman, whether I would financially thrive or crash, if I would even find love again one day.
I was a stay at home Mum who'd been out of the workforce for 5 years - the financial worry and uncertainty was a big worry for me. I'd never even had a bill in my own name as an adult. I hadn't been alone and single since my early 20's and I worried, will anyone love me again or will I end up alone?
Literally if my married self prior to 2016 came and knocked on my door, she would not recognize me for the woman I am today. All the things she was tolerating, settling for, turning a blind eye to and trying to keep the peace over had diminished her to such a place back then that she didn't realise it until she left.
I don't even know that woman anymore, but I carry her still within me and love her for what she went through which has lead me to be the woman that I am today. Not only for myself but for other women like you.
In Newly Divorced, I have created what my former self then needed to up level both her life, self-worth, financial confidence, career, self-belief and the relationships she was wanting to attract in.
THIS PROGRAM IS FOR YOU IF YOU:
Are ready to move on and to leave the grief, sadness and hurt in the past. Grateful for the lessons you've learnt but ready to be an empowered, feminine, confident version of yourself into the future.
Know you need to rebuild your sense of self and reimagine yourself. You're not the same woman today that you were when you met your ex-husband. You're different. Life gets to change to accommodate this and it needs to.
Want to feel smart and confident financially. And trust that you can provide for yourself and your children.
Need to learn how to deal with an ex who is still being controlling, emotionally manipulative, even toxic with you.
Desire to be in a relationship that is nurturing for you instead of one that leaves you carrying it and holding it altogether. Where you are loved, cared for and supported. That is intimate, passionate and has emotional depth to it. A relationship that brings out a more feminine, sensual, soft side while still allowing you to be successful, empowered in your 9-5 career.
Know that having a lack of boundaries and that your people pleasing nature has left you feeling taken advantage of and like you're the one who is always giving and carrying others and it's left you feeling unappreciated and cost you your self-worth.
Never want to find yourself in a relationship with a man similar to the one you've left.
If you've tried to move on from the wounds of the past but are still struggling to do so. You feel like nothing really changes despite what you try to do. You have as many negative, hopeless, self-sabotaging thoughts as you do positive, optimistic ones about your situation and self.
HERE'S WHAT WE'LL DO THROUGH THESE 3 MONTHS TOGETHER
Create A Highest Self Vision For You That Is Aligned With You Are Now & Who You Are Becoming. Learn How To Manifest This Vision Into Your Experience. Become A Super Manifestor & Attractor.
Clear The Blocks, Wounds, Masculine Patterns You Don't Know You Have & Negative Thoughts That Are Keeping You Stuck & Cycling Around In Your Mind
Learn The Art Of Opening Up To Receiving More Love & Shed The Habit Of Self-Sabotage & People Pleasing
Feel Financially Confident & Strong As A Single Woman. Trust Your Ability To Make Decisions, Hold Money, Create Your Own Security And To Manifest Career Opportunities & Abundance Into Your Life.
Learn How To Trust & Cultivate Our Intuition & Self-Trust & So We Never Ignore Our Inner Guidance Again
Understand The Feminine
& Masculine Energies Within Us And Learn What A Well Balanced Masculine/Feminine Energy Looks & Feels Like. Understand All Of Your Feminine Sides & Learn How To Embrace The Inner Child, The Goddess & The Queen Within
Lessen The Impact That A Controlling, Emotionally Manipulative & Toxic Ex Has Over You Emotionally & Also In Your Decision Making.
And So Much More...!
Newly Divorced combines both the emotional work, the practical next steps and the mindset techniques necessary for you to leave your past patterning, courtesy of your marriage, behind and move into the future a better version of self.
You will be supported by me yes! But you will also learn from the other coaches and practitioners I recommend to my clients within this program too.
It takes a village and several modalities to help you change and up-level your psyche and blueprint for good. This is your village!
Newly Divorced is my favourite, ultimate space to share with my clients everything I know will support them on their personal journey. Now and into the future. This online programs expands and continues to expand as I do.
I Invite You To Join Me In This 3 Month Life Will Never Be The Same Again, I'm Not Looking Back Program
In this powerful, highly supportive online coaching program, we will move you forward in your life and self further and faster than you could imagine.
This is you achieving accelerated fast results to move you forward in your personal life, love life and financially.
Through both my own personal experience after going through my own divorce in 2016, and after many years since of coaching women through the emotional and practical journey of their own divorce and moving on from a divorce process, I deeply know the emotional processes my clients need to focus on and efficient energetic pathway to do so.
In all the ways this will be an up-level.
Emotionally. Financially. Practically. In themselves. In love.
You Will Also Learn From These Well-Regarded Coaches Alongside Me...
Eleanor is a Sensuality Coach, Sex Educator and Founder of Sensualista Flow™️, a uniquely feminine movement yoga practice designed to empower students to reclaim their innate sensuality. Eleanor is on a mission to help women embody their femininity, enhance their sex-life and elevate their relationships.
Eleanor believes that sensuality is the missing key to cultivating deeper connection - with yourself, your body, your pleasure and with your loved ones. She has supported women around the world to finally channel their feminine essence to create super turned on lives of ease and flow.
Her clients and students have fallen in love with their bodies once and for all, reclaimed their pleasure, unlocked orgasms, stepped in to their most confident selves and become super sensual.
Annmarie is a psychic healer and healer who guides women of all ages into a life of their dreams. She is the founder of Minrgy™️, an empowering healing modality that combines the principles of reiki, NLP and intuitive guidance into one practice to both heal and empower.
With every woman she has worked with over the last 15 years she brings a bag of "knowledge tools" to the consolation so as everyone has a unique, empowered experience that will enhance them to feel liberated and trusting in all areas of their lives.
Annmarie is Carla's preferred psychic and intuitive guide over the last five years.
Tara is a licensed master hypnotherapist based in Perth with over 15 years of experience. She specialises in supporting her clients to rewire themselves neurologically to change their behaviour and thinking through the power of hypnosis and positive suggestion.
Tara is specialised in treating anxiety, PTSD, addiction, depression, changing negative thinking and belief patterns and in cutting emotional cords due to heartbreak, trauma or loss.
Tara has been Carla's personal hypnotherapist for the last four years.
Her work is positive thinking and affirmations on steroids.
Louanne has helped thousands of people meet, connect and enjoy lasting committed relationships. Her entire career, spanning almost three decades has revolved around love and helping people achieve their relationship goals. Louanne's career as a matchmaker began at the age of 21 and she launched her agency a few years later in 1993.
Transitioning into the digital dating era, she has maintained her values of offering a specialised personal service. In all of these years, her curiosity about the brain science of love and human behaviour has never faded.
Together Louanne and I will help you deeply understand the differences between the masculine and the feminine and how to embody more of our feminine energy so we can attract a masculine man.
Personalised support from Carla in our private members group.
Private group and community of like-minded women, moving through the same life season as you.
Newly Divorced Road Map: Let Carla lead you through over 25+ hours of pre-record video recordings for you to be able to listen to in your own. Carla has paced and structured this program purposefully to unfold in a way that supports your growth and healing in a way that will accelerate and fast-track your success. The step by step pathway is on purpose.
Australia’s leading dating and relationship coach Louanne Ward sharing with us how to discover and truly embody the Queen within, and teachings on understanding the feminine/masculine energies in relationships and dating. How we emasculate men accidentally. How to be an empowered woman who can be in a relationship with a masculine man (and attract these types of men too!)
Tara Stone a leading hypnotherapist to support you to rewire and anchor in your new beliefs concretely using a selection of her guided hypnosis mediations. This library of her work will support you to completely overwrite your current beliefs and patterns. Flipping the switch on your inner talk from being negative, this feels hard to positive and everything is coming together for me. So you no longer feel a sense of hopelessness in finding love, believe you truly deserve and can attract in the kind of love you desire to call in and to support you to be in your feminine energy.
Teachings on how to develop our intuition, distinguish between the voice of our fear and inner knowing and to recognise the intuitive signs when we are choosing a new partner. While learning how to trust the flow and journey of our life with Carla’s favourite intuitive medium and psychic Annmarie Lord.
A feminine embodiment yoga class to help you explore a more sensual, feminine side of yourself. To enhance your inner Goddess, sensuality and self-apprecation practice with Eleanor Hadley the founder of Sensualista Flow Yoga. (This class is pre-recorded for you to be able to explore privately).
Plus so much more content and teachings that you're not even aware that you need to move on and reimagine yourself successfully!
Hear What Past Members Have To Say
"Carla Carla Carla.
Where do I start?
Well, lets go from the person that I was a couple of years ago. I was in a relationship that was going nowhere.
I left (again) and did my usual thing and got into another one STAT. I couldn't work out why this pattern of behaviour wasn't working for me and I found myself at a crossroads. Either I keep doing the same thing or challenge myself to do something else.
Along came this program. What a mind blowing process it was. It was like looking at myself through a mirror glass for the first time in my life and I didn't like what I saw.
Carla is one of the most inspired people that I've had the pleasure of working with. She knows her shit. She will challenge you. She will guide you to a better version of yourself, one that personally I didn't know existed.
The group program was amazing. Working with Carla 1:1 was next level"
"After my separation I felt lost in every sense of the word, didn't know where to start or where to next. I stumbled across Carla's book 'Seconds Please" and read it in a day. For the first time in a long time I felt like someone understood. I then connected with Carla and started this program.
This program allowed me to challenge myself and grow towards being a strong, confident and capable woman. Carla's support and knowledge in this area of separation and divorce is second to none.
Today I feel happy, strong and confident in the person I am, and in what I need and want going forward. I cannot recommend Carla's services more highly, she has changed the course of my life"
"A year ago I couldn’t have imagined being where I am today. I was in a loveless marriage and severely depressed.
With so many unresolved issues from childhood affecting my relationships, I didn’t know where to turn.
Fast forward to today and I am in a loving relationship where I am valued, respected and treated like a queen, but more importantly, I feel strong and happy in myself for the first time in my life!"
WHAT IS INCLUDED?
Private Online Members Portal For Members Only, Where All Of The Programs Content Will Be Released To You Over The Three Month Period.
Private Members Group Access With Forever Access. Your Chance To Ask The Questions You Most Need Answered On Your Journey As You Need.
One Time Enrolment With Forever Lifetime Access To The Content Inside. This means you can do the program at your own pace and also revisit the content to be re-inspired at any time into the future. And you will also have access to all new content as it is added to the program.
IN JUST THREE MONTHS YOU'LL
Be crystal clear on what you want for yourself in this new chapter of your life. What you're capable of. What you deserve. How to arrive there.
Feel more attractive, magnetic and confident in your own skin as a feminine woman. This will expand you not only in your personal intimate life but also professionally.
Have cleared any negative wounds or emotions that have been weighing you down. And no longer able to be emotionally triggered or manipulated by your ex. Free of any guilt, fear, shame or anxiety about the future.
Up-level your self-belief and self-worth to a whole new level. Feel in control of all the elements within your life, confident that are now yours to manage and anything that may arise into the future.
Know what you want (and deserve) in love next and completely change your love blueprint to align with this. All blocks to what you want to manifest into your life are removed. A clear path to move forward on.
What Past Members Say
"Working with Carla was the best move I made! Joining this program helped me understand what wasn't working for me and what was holding me back from being the best version of myself.
I gained the confidence, clarity and energy to move through the next stage of my life and to trust my intuition more.
Carla was also available to help me 1:1 recently when I was stuck on a situation I couldn't move past. She helped me gain clarity and shift my focus so that I could move forward.
I am so grateful for Carla's support and guidance and can highly recommend working with her.
Thanks again Carla x"
"I reached out because I was struggling to let go of an unhealthy attachment I had to a man I had met. I had been separated for a few years and was repeating the same patterns in attracting the same man over an over.
I reached out to Carla to enquire about the Elevate You program. I was hesitant at first to make the investment in myself as I thought I should be able to just ‘stop’ fixating and to change my patterns myself. How wrong was I!
I was very nervous having my one on one with Carla but after allowing myself to be fully open with her she was able to hold a mirror up. What I had been attracting is what I was sending out - Wow mind blown!
The program has given me tools and helped me to shift my energy, to love my self and my life and to attract more of what fills my cup. It’s a journey but one definately worth taking. Thank you Carla!"
I am absolutely loving the course, I cannot tell you how this has changed my life. I never thought that I would come out of the situation that I was in.
Last June I came out of a very challenging relationship with a long term partner who was an alcoholic. I rekindled a relationship with an ex who although was not physically or emotionally abusive he was not very nice. This was devastating.
I am 43 and I have never ever been single and this is the first time. Since I have participated in this course for the first time in my life I feel comfortable own space and I am genuinely okay and at peace.
I am taking time to nourish and care for myself. I pray that one day I will meet someone although I am still a little terrified.
I cannot thank you enough, honestly you are an earth angel xx"
ABOUT YOUR HOST
Carla Da Costa is a published author and a divorce coach. She works with women who are separating or divorced through her private coaching practice, her online program and her books.
Through her work Carla supports and inspires women to make this next season of their life, the best season of their life. Carla has become a modern voice on divorce asking is divorce really a failure or could this actually be the best thing that ever happened to you?
Carla’s intention is to support and empower men and women to become a product of their greatest self-expression. If she can change her life and how she views her life and potential than you can too. In this area she is a powerhouse.
Carla is currently living between Sydney and Perth, Australia with her two daughters and their dog Oliver. She spends most of her time at the beach, is forever removing sand from her car, swimming endless laps in the pool, catching up with friends, doing coffee and lunch with loved ones and living on Vietnamese and Japanese food (with the occasional Portuguese custard tart thrown in).
Her life motto is: 'I blow by anything that slows me down' ~ Guru Jagat.