When my marriage ended in 2016 and our marital house had been finally sold, I remember lying on the floor of the shower, with the water coming down on me and asking myself "how did I get here?!" I had asked for the marriage ending and my divorce, but still the loss of it all, when it all came undone landed on me all at once. Everything I’d built my life around, identified with, thought was my forever, had shifted and gone. I knew I didn't need therapy. I didn't have a mental